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Saturday, June 18, 2011



”Frustration is there because of your expectations. 

Expect, and there will be frustration. 
Don't expect, and there will be no frustration. 
Frustration is a by product: the more you expect, the more you create your own frustration. 
So frustration is not really the problem, it is the result. 
Expectation is the problem. 
Frustration is just a shadow which follows expectation. If you don't expect even for a single moment, if you are in a state of mind where there is no expectation, then it is simple. 
You ask a question and the answer comes; there is a fulfilment. 
But if you ask with any expectations you will be frustrated by the answer.

Everything we do, we do with expectations. If I love someone, an expectation enters without my even knowing it. I begin to expect love in return. I have not yet loved, I have not grown into love yet, but the expectation has come and now it will destroy the whole thing. 
Love creates more frustration than anything else in the world because, with love, you are in a utopia of expectation. You have not even been on the journey yet and already you have begun to think of the return home.

The same law applies to everything. 
There is so much frustration in the world that it is difficult to find someone who is not frustrated. 
It is very difficult to find a person who is not frustrated. 
And It makes no difference what the object, the cause, the source of frustration may be. 
One can be frustrated because of power, because of prestige, because of wealth. One can be frustrated because of love. One can even be frustrated because of God.  

Even in the search for the divine we have expectations. 
Expectation is the poison. 
That's why there is frustration; it has to be so. Realize the falsity, the poison in the expecting mind. If you can become aware of it, the expectations will drop and there will be no frustration. The world is frustrated -- that is a fact. But you go and try to find out why you are frustrated. You will find that it is because of your expectations. 
That is the seed, the root cause. 
Throw it out! 

Don't think about the world, think about yourself. You are the world and if you begin to be different the world begins to be different. A part of it, an intrinsic part, has begun to be different: the world has begun to change. We are always concerned with changing the world. That is just an escape. 

I have always felt that people who are concerned with others' changing are really escaping from their own frustrations, their own conflicts, their own anxieties, their own anguish. 
They are focusing their minds on something else, they are occupying their minds with something else, because they cannot change themselves. 
It is easier to try to change the world than to change oneself.... :)

...Remember to find out the cause of your own frustrations. And the sooner you do so, the better. 
Situations differ, but the source of frustration is always the same .... your expectations....”



(sent by Mrs. Sangeeta Hegde).