Friday, July 19, 2013

Path to Healing




It is within us to explore and draw upon our inner resources to heal.
Some wounds are embedded so deeply that no amount of professional expertise can cure, much less heal.

A famous Yale surgeon says that as a surgeon,
he cuts into the body, but he can not order the
wound to heal. Ultimately, it is through our efforts
that healing can occur.



The path to healing is a personal choice. It is a path
where you choose to piece together the fragments
and make it" whole" again. It paves the way to
self-discovery, to open the door to your inner self
and experience inner harmony. And ultimately, come to
meet the child within that has longed for your love ,
care and attention. The child within that is forgotten,
pushed to the background, lurks in the shadows,
but patiently waits to be acknowledged.

WHAT NEEDS HEALING?


Childhood trauma

:
The imprints of childhood experience is a powerful
force. An expectant mother who lives through a stressful
situation during pregnancy share the burden with
the unborn child. Years ago,domestic matters were
never discussed openly, especially issues about abuse,
violence,neglect , abandonment and other related matters.
Today, society is more aware of the potential or
actual existence of abuse and violence in the home.

It is tragic that the innermost and safest sanctuary society
depends upon can be the most dangerous.These are
issues that take its toll on the young victims. They grow
up with wounds, carry them around like a heavy load
on their shoulders.

Some never get over their trauma,
it turns up at the most unexpected moment to haunt them;
yet, there are those who are lucky enough to confront
it and use it to propel themselves to a healthier mind,
body and spirit, successful relationships and life itself.

When love is a venom:

How many hearts have known pain all in the name of love.
It invades lives from all walks of life, social status,
add to that race or creed.No one wants to suffer pain,
but it does happen. Healing a broken heart, picking up
the pieces of broken hopes and dreams, suffer the betrayal ,
endure shattered self-image, re-live the haunting
nightmares, the violation of one's innermost being,
soul and spirit...it can take a lifetime to heal.
The most traumatic of all is the violation that comes
from those who are supposed to provide a nurturing
environment to those who are entrusted to their care.
All in the guise of love.

Grief
The loss of a loved one can be most devastating.
Sometimes one did not have a chance to bid their
last farewell. It was all too sudden.Or one passes
away after a lingering illness, with the relief
that the suffering is over comes the grief of the loss.
At one point and time in one's life, grief is a reality.

Guilt

Wrong turns, wrong choices, wrong decisions-
we all take wrong turns, make wrong decisions and choices.
This is a human trait, even the saintliest of the
saints has experienced this. We stumble, we fall, but many
of us manage to get up and get on with life.The losses
incurred at times may be life-threatening, or at the cost
of financial comfort and security or worst, relationships
are threatened, lost, sadly but innocently or unconsciously
someone else has to bear consequences and the sacrifice.
Wearing guilt on your sleeves, in your heart, in your being
invites negative vibrations and digs you deeper into the mire.
Take a look at those sad eyes,the window of the soul \,
and you'll know. However,this is not a dead-end!

Unfulfilled dreams and hopes
Live your dream,ride on the wings of hope- this will
not always work out. One day you wake up and realize
your dream never materialized and now you languish over
the many years you spent trying to pursue that dream!
All this while, time, opportunities and life passed you by .
Hope can lead to disappointment- realize this. When all
hopes are dashed , what have you got?

PATH TO HEALING:



Healing is a complex matter.
Who has never felt the pains of suffering, be it
physical, mental, emotional, material and spiritual?

Even our dear Mother Earth is in desperate need of
healing from the abuse inflicted upon her through man's
recklessness, negligence and lack of respect.

There are avenues open to healing. One may choose to
spend time with a professional, seek comfort from related
groups, from family, but always, healing has to start
with oneself, from within that deep well of strength .


It takes determination to face up to your dilemma,
but, ultimately,it is most rewarding to regain your personal
power, self-confidence, learn to love yourself and enjoy
that inner peace and calm. It is important to acknowledge
the pain, to recognize the cause, to be able to integrate
the fragmented pieces and be willing to take it to the
next step to be "whole"again.Then, you will be able to
share love and peace with the world once again.

Healing extends beyond the physical state- when the pain
is so deep, the spirit, the soul also bears the pain.
It comes in hauntingly in the dark of the night ,
it fills a once loving heart with venom, it could
ravage a once healthy mind and body. Beneath a once
beautiful and graceful soul is the mask of vengeance.
Venom for venom.

BLOCKS TO HEALING
Sometimes, the path to healing is full of potholes.
Indeed, the path is covered with blocks, where healing
can not be accomplished,it's almost out of reach.

Impediments on the path:
Denial, apathy, self-absorption and self-indulgence,
addiction, putting up walls and barriers, busy-bee
syndrome, compartmentalizing, isolation,withdrawal
from society, cynicism, loss of faith, trust and compassion,
self-pity, poor ?me syndrome, anger, fear of getting
hurt again, martyr complex, neurosis or psychosis,
aggressive/ oppressive behaviour, confrontational attitude
guilt complex, resignation, loss of motivation.

Sometimes, we hurt those we love most deeply,
likewise, we bear the pain they cause. Time is a
great healer, but don't take the painfully slow
route and miss out on what the world holds for you.
Let life flow for you and with you.



E N D .

From an email sent by Mr. G E Moorthy

Saturday, July 13, 2013

Mouse Trap. Story on Unity



A mouse looked through the crack
in the wall to see the farmer and
his wife open a package. 

                                                                             


What food might this contain?'
The mouse wondered - - -
he was devastated to discover it
was a mousetrap. 



Retreating to the farmyard,
the mouse proclaimed the warning :

There is a mousetrap in the house!
There is a mousetrap in the house!'
 



The chicken clucked and scratched,
raised her head and said,
'Mr.Mouse, I can tell this is a grave concern
to you, but it is of no consequence
to me.
 I cannot be bothered by it.'




The mouse turned to
the pig and told him,
'There is a mousetrap in the house!
There is a mousetrap in the house!' 

The pig sympathized, but said, I am
so very sorry, Mr.Mouse, but there
is nothing I can do about it but pray.



Be assured you are in my prayers.' 






The mouse turned to
the cow and said
'There is a mousetrap in the house!
There is a mousetrap in the house!' 


The cow said, 'Wow, Mr. Mouse.
I'm sorry for you, but it's no skin
off my nose.'



So, the mouse returned to the
house, head down and dejected,
to face the farmer's mousetrap . . .
alone.



That very night a sound was heard throughout
the house -- like the sound of a mousetrap catching
its prey.


The farmer's wife rushed to see
what was caught.   In the darkness,
she did not see it was a venomous
snake whose tail the trap had caught.


The snake bit the farmer's wife.

 The farmer rushed her to the hospital ,


and she returned home with a fever.




Everyone knows you treat a fever
with fresh chicken soup, so the
farmer took his hatchet to the
farmyard for the soup's main
 


ingredient. 



But his wife's sickness continued,
so friends and neighbors came to
sit with her around the clock.



To feed them, the farmer
butchered the  pig. 





The farmer's wife did not get well;



she died.
 





So many people came for her funeral,
the farmer had the cow slaughtered to
provide enough meat for all of them.



The mouse looked upon it all from
his crack in the wall with great sadness.

                                                                                  



So, the next time you hear someone
is facing a problem and think it
doesn't concern you,

remember ----



when one of us is threatened,
we are all at risk.
 

We are all involved in this journey called life.



We must keep an eye out
for one another and make an extra
effort to encourage one another.
                    

From an email sent by Shreevijai Sundar, 




Sunday, July 7, 2013

Potato Chips with God!

                                
Take 60 seconds to read this wonderful story. 


   
                          






                        
 via Mrs. Sangeeta Hegde.