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How a Password Changed my Life

A true story from the Reader’s Digest
                  
I was having a great morning until I sat down in front of my office computer “your password has expired” a server message flashed on my screen, with instructions for changing it. 

Coming up with a new code doesn’t seem like a big deal, unless you work at my company, where we have to change it monthly, using at least one uppercase character, one lower case character, one symbol and one number. Oh and the password can’t be fewer than eight characters. And I can’t use any of the same passwords I’ve used in the past three months.

Suddenly I was furious, what didn’t make it any better was that I was deeply depressed after my recent divorce. Disbelief over what she had done to me was what I thought all day.

That didn’t mean anything to the empty field with the pulsating cursor, waiting for me to type a password that I have to reenter many times – for the next 30 days. I remembered a tip I’d heard from my former boss. He’d said 

“ I’m going to use a password that is going to change my life”           

I couldn’t focus on getting things done in my current mood. There were clear indications that I needed to regain control over my life, but I couldn’t heed them. My password became the indicator. My password reminded me that I shouldn’t let myself be a victim of my recent breakup and that I was strong enough to do something about it.

I made my password – Forgive@h3r , I had to type this password several times every day each time my computer would lock. Each time I came back from lunch I wrote forgive her. The simple action changed the way I looked at my ex-wife. That constant reminder of reconciliation led me to accept the way things happened and helped me deal with my depression. As one month wore on, I felt a slow healing began to take place. By the time the server prompted me to change my password following month, I felt free.

The next time I had to change my password I thought about the next thing that I had to get done. My password became Quit@smoking4ever .

         
It motivated me to follow my goal and I was able to quit smoking.

                                     

One month later, my password became Save4trip@thiland, and in three months I was able to visit Thailand.

Seeing how reminders helped me materialize my goals kept me motivated and excited. While it is sometimes difficult to come up with your next goal, keeping at it brings great results.

After a few months, my password was Save4@ring !!! Life is going to change again.

                              

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Impermanence

                              

When somebody tells me that he or she has failed in their academic exams, my question is,

"Is it a law that you will pass every time?"

                 

 When someone tells me that my boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with me, my question is,

"Is it a rule that you will have successful relationships everywhere?"

 When somebody asks me why am I feeling depressed, my question is,

"Is it compulsory to have confidence all the time?"

 

 When someone cries to me about their huge business loss due to a wrong decision, my question is,

"Is it possible that you take all right decisions?"

 The fact is, our expectation that life has to be perfect/permanent is the biggest reason of our unhappiness.

One has to understand the law of impermanence of nature.

 After each sunny day, there has to be a dark night, after each birth there have to be certain deaths, for the full moon to come again it has to pass through no moon. In this imperfection of nature, there is perfection.
                                                         

 So stop taking your failures and bad part of your life so personally or intensely, even God does not like to give you pain but it is the cycle through which you have to pass. Prepare yourself for one more fight after each fall because even failures cannot be permanent...!

                                      

 
Enjoy life.... 

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What the others will say.....

                                    

An old man, staying in a small South Indian town came to visit his son in Bombay recently. 

The son in his early thirties is a successful businessman living with his wife and son. 

                                     

The father, having spent most of his life at his birthplace, hardly understands a splatter of Hindi or English, forget Marathi (local languages). 

But he doesn't care. 'I have come here to spend a few days with my son and his family. I don't have to go out and socialize with the city people,' he said.

But the son is very excited about his father's rare visit to Bombay. He wants to make the best of it. He and his wife want to show him around the city. And yes, the son enjoys those evening hours too when he and his father go out and sit in a good bar, sipping their favorite drink.

Last week he was in a very good mood. 'Let's go to a five-star hotel's bar tonight,' he told his father. It was a beautiful evening. Talking about everything under the sun they had a few drinks. As usual they were offered some salad, peanuts, wafers etc .as accompaniments with their drinks. 

The old man being almost toothless was not much interested in eating. But that day when they got up to leave, he simply took a handful of chana (roasted grams) and stuffed it in the fold of his dhoti. He might have thought about munching on them, sitting in the car, or whatever.

Unfortunately, while walking in the lobby, he missed a step and stumbled. Down he went, scattering the chana on the plush carpet. 

No problem ..... 

Now try to visualize that scenario. Someone else in his son's place would have been mortified, embarrassed to death. He might have cursed not his father but his own self for causing this awkward situation. 

'Never again will I take my old man to such hotels', he would have vowed.

No sir, not this son. Gently, with a smile, he helped his father get back on his feet. Instead of feeling irritated or angry, he was amused. He found the whole incident very funny. Laughing, they both went home and on the way they decided to return to the same place the following Sunday. The old man liked the place and liked the chana too.

Few days back, at a friend's place they both described this event and made everybody laugh. 

Weren't you embarrassed? Somebody asked the son. 'Oh, come on now' replied the son. 'He is my father. He talks in his native language, prefers to wear a dhoti even to a posh city hotel, takes chana from the bar to eat later, does whatever he feels like.... So what? Why should I feel embarrassed with his nature and habits?

Nobody has a right to stop him from doing whatever he feels comfortable with, as long as it is not harmful to others.' The son doesn't care what the staff in the hotel thought about that incident.

He says 'they should be concerned only with their bills and tips. I am concerned about my father's happiness.' 

The wife too totally agrees with the husband on this issue. She feels there are enough other qualities in her father- in- law to feel proud of. Accept them .

The above incident is not mentioned just to show the love and devotion of a son for his father. 

More than love it is a matter of understanding and a healthy respect for the other person's lifestyle. A seventy plus old man doesn't want to change his lifestyle now. He likes the way he eats or dresses or talks. In his eyes, there is nothing wrong with the old ways of living. 

And the son says, ok, fine. Everybody has a right to live as per his wish. Now, at his age, why should he be forced to learn to eat with a fork and knife if he doesn't want to? I will feel bad if he is doing something morally wrong or indulging in some harmful activities. But otherwise it is fine. I am not going to try to change him at this stage. He is my father. I love him, respect him.

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